I have so much to write — about the end of summer and the start of school. Heck, I still have a few items from summer vacation I want to get to.
But moment-to-moment interactions often dictate the agenda here, and many a post gets conceived in brief bits of morning conversation.
This was a typically chaotic school morning in our house, as we all scrambled to eat, shower, dress and pack for our days.
Riley had the remote and decided to watch the morning news coverage of the September 11 anniversary. Ryan did not object. You may recall that last year he made a similar choice, a real breakthrough for him in terms of connecting to current events.
As I headed upstairs to get dressed, he had a message for me. We recently began another lengthy backyard hockey series, and we try to play a game every night when I get home.
“Dad, tonight’s hockey game will be delayed by a ceremony to remember 9/11,” he told me. He was completely serious.
Ryan seeks absolute realism in all his games. It’s why there are goal horns and play-by-play calls when he plays with his Hockey Guys. It’s why he sometimes sings the national anthem (or both the U.S. and Canadian anthems if the game is in Canada or against a Canadian team) before his games — and insists everyone stand at attention.
For him, the decision to add a ceremony tonight is not about being silly. There is no hint of inappropriate mocking.
It’s about being real.
I expect there will be a moment of silence, perhaps followed by the anthem. But I don’t really know what he has in mind.
And I will stand at silent attention, glad once again that my son has found a way connect to current events that works — and is meaningful — for him.
He’s come a long way from confusing Osama Bin Laden and Oliver Ekman-Larsson.
Update: Read the post-script here –>
10 thoughts on “Remembering 9/11, Ryan’s Way”
he’s got such a big heart, it’s great reading this, thx for the post
Thanks. I like to think so. And thanks for becoming such a regular reader/commenter.
I loved the clip of the anthem…and that he knew all the words. The high notes at the end were the best!
You should hear him on O Canada.
This is wonderful – he’s found a way to connect and in such a meaningful way. He’s a good kid 🙂
We like to think so. Thanks!
I think his way of connecting is sincere and, actually, fantastic.
Thanks. You can now read the details of the ceremony here: https://pucksandpuzzlepieces.com/2013/09/12/postscript-ryans-911-ceremony/