Ryan doesn’t often express wishes. I’m not sure why. Maybe he’s just more focused on what is right in front of him. Maybe wishes are too abstract a concept for someone so wired to think in black and white.

Whatever the reason, when he expresses a wish, it can be profound.

Before Ryan’s life-altering visit with the San Jose Sharks last week, he was talking to Veronica about it how excited he was. She probably asked him if he had told anyone at school about it. Ryan was hesitant to talk about hockey in school before, but this was something different. He expressed his wish.

“I wish I lived in Canada,” he told her. “Then I could be just like everyone else instead of ‘that boy who likes hockey.’ ”

So much said in so few words. So much awareness and sense of self. And, as always, self-awareness is a double-edged sword.

Ryan’s greatest successes with “typical” kids have been to find those with whom he shares a common interest. Because of Ryan’s overwhelming interest in all things hockey, it is a natural starting place. Because sports are inherently social, the common bond can serve as a bridge across certain social gaps. It’s a conversation starter, and a conversation sustain-er. It provides an activity when friends come over to hang out.

And yet, Ryan is starting to realize his interest in hockey is extreme, and therefore different. He doesn’t want to be different. He doesn’t want to be known for being different.

Which brings us to Canada.

Since Ryan’s interest in hockey developed, Canada has existed as a magical place in his mind — a place where everyone loves hockey as much as he does. More than that, it represents a place where his questions about hockey wouldn’t be met with blank stares. Where he could ask someone he’s just met, as he often does, “Do you like hockey?” and “What’s your favorite team?” and it would lead to a conversation and a connection more often than it does in New Jersey.

Having just returned from a trip to Vancouver myself, I have to say he’s not far off. Hockey conversations — in-depth, analytical hockey conversations — are not hard to find among total strangers. Hockey is part of the fabric of the country in a way that no single sport is here in the U.S.

Ryan has been to Canada, briefly, twice — a pair of trips to the Great Wolf Lodge in Niagara Falls. He was amazed by how many people there wore hockey shirts and hats all the time. He loved it. His people!

Later, he was asked to describe his favorite place in the world in a paragraph as part of a triennial re-evaluation. This is what he wrote:

My favorite place in the whole entire world is Canada. That is because hockey, a loud sport on ice lives there. My favorite sport, is hockey. It’s loud and is a place for fun. Their sports arena belong to hockey. People there go crazy over the stanley cup. I learned in this sport four years ago. I wish I loved it my whole life. I play it, it’s so good.

From “Let’s Evaluate,” March 21, 2012

Ryan is always most at ease when he’s among hockey people, whether it’s with his street hockey teammates, at an NHL game, at another hockey event, or hanging out with the San Jose Sharks.

These are the people who accept him, who don’t judge him or view his extreme interest in the sport as odd.

One of the differences between Ryan now and Ryan of a few years ago is that he’s far more perceptive of other people. Once, he was surprised to learn that everyone doesn’t think like him. Now, he is very aware that everyone doesn’t.

His wish about Canada? I read it as a wish to find his place, his comfort, his acceptance.

A wish to be among his people.

And, really, who doesn’t wish for that?